One of the most interesting parts of my work as a counsellor is the diversity of people I get to connect and work with. I consider myself lucky to meet with people from a range of ages, from youth to retirees, cultural backgrounds, life situations and experiences, sexual orientation, gender identification, and personalities. Each person or couple I meet with is unique and it is a true pleasure to get to know, guide and work alongside each.
Some of the issues I work with, but are not limited to, include:
- Grief and loss
- Relational and couples counselling
- Youth counselling
- Sexual issues/concerns
- Life transition
My approach is very open and accepting. No matter what you are struggling with or how taboo you feel your concerns, you will find that I am an accepting and non-judgemental listener and support. I strive to create an environment where everyone feels comfortable sharing and exploring.
Individual Adult Counselling
As a counsellor I believe in the connection between our physical, mental, social and emotional aspects. In my work with individuals, I encourage considering all of these aspects of one’s well-being. Each of us is our own expert in knowing what is truly best for ourselves. My goal is to help my clients reach a place where they have clear and confident access to that sense of knowing, so that the counselling experience goes beyond the counselling room and the wisdom gained becomes a part of everyday living. This is often achieved by getting to know our genuine selves through honest and safe exploration of the beliefs that have been planted and have grown throughout our lives. Gaining increased awareness of our beliefs about ourselves, the world, and relationships offers us the opportunity to observe and transform those beliefs.
In my work with youth, I also believe in exploring beliefs. Throughout the teen years, social and emotional skills and identity development are rapidly and continuously being explored and influenced. Counselling offers an incredibly healthy and safe way for young people to communicate their feelings and experiences without judgement. Often this sharing leads my younger clients to an opening up to and asking for guidance as they navigate one of the most complex and scary stages of life, moving from childhood to adulthood.
In my couples counselling work, I utilize my training and experience with Emotion Focused Couples Therapy (EFT). From this perspective, I help couples to identify the negative cycle of interaction that the pair is likely stuck in and victim to. I often hear couples complain that they experience the same arguments and feelings over and over again in their relationship. Each partner, while trying to protect themselves from hurt, in their own way, helps perpetuate this negative cycle of interaction. Within this negative cycle there are emotional needs that are going unmet for each partner. Through the discovery, articulation, and deeper understanding of these unmet needs, a new positive cycle of interaction can emerge.
Tiffani is an experienced individual, couples, adolescent and family therapist. Tiffani works from Gestalt and Buddhist Psychology perspectives and is always mindful of research proven best practices for any given issue. Gestalt therapy focuses on increased self-awareness through “being with what is” in the moment (thoughts/feelings/sensations) which leads to better understanding and contact with self in order to engage in life and relationships with a greater sense of awareness and confidence. The knowing that comes from this therapeutic experience can guide the client to make choices in their life that are more congruent and authentic to them, and therefore more satisfying and fulfilling. Buddhist Psychology and Mindfulness are incorporated to decrease suffering and increase coping. Tiffani offers intensive, experiential and collaborative therapy that is insight and personal growth driven.
Client success is partially based on the “fit” of client and therapist. With this in mind, Tiffani brings her true self to the counselling room to engage with her client’s most true self. Working as equals, together they identify goals and engage in exploring each concern with curiosity and openness. Tiffani takes her client’s lead but tends to work in the here and now, accessing the past if it appears to be a barrier to the future. Her training and experience includes but is not limited to the following areas:
- Anxiety & Panic
- Bereavement counselling
- Crisis intervention/Stress management
- Life transitions
- Identity formation
- Self-worth & Self-esteem
- Substance use issues
- Parenthood decision-making
- Parent Support
- Postpartum depression
- Parenthood post 30.
In addition to the Gestalt framework, Tiffani works from Dan Wile’s Collaborative Couple approach. In working with couples, Tiffani aligns herself with each partner to fully explore their stance and experience in order to define their ultimate “wants” from the other and within the relationship. Each partner is then helped to understand that they cannot help wanting what they want, and nor can the other. Once partners understand and accept this fact, they can then move from engaging in accusatory relating to attempting to understand the others’ stance in any given discussion/argument. It then becomes possible to view the relationship and communication patterns from a “bird’s eye perspective” in order to gain more clarity of unhelpful relating patterns and to identify new ways of being and communicating in order for the relationship to thrive and for each partner to feel heard, understood and happy.
Tiffani has been working with youth of varying cultural and socio-economic backgrounds for over 10 years and is efficient and competent in developing a strong and trusting rapport. She understands and can appreciate how difficult and scary it can be to be a teenager in today’s world. Sometimes teenagers just need a confidential place to talk about what’s happening (or happened) in their lives. Other times, they need advice, guidance and/or coping strategies from a trusted professional. Tiffani collaborates with her teenage clients to set specific goals, encourages responsibility and accountability, to ultimately deepen their self-awareness, inner resources and feelings of control (mastery) in their lives. Tiffani offers teens a supportive, caring place to be understood, heard and helped.
Informed by her many years of experience working with youth and their families, Tiffani offers family counselling that addresses the complexity of each individual’s thoughts, feelings, experiences and needs. Tiffani understands the pressures and risks today’s youth face, as well as the many challenges of parenting teens. She offers a variety of practical and creative strategies to manage these stressors and challenges, and also engages her clients in processing negative family dynamics/experiences in order to strengthen the family’s communication, understanding and overall bond. Tiffani is experienced in supporting and providing education to parents with the goal of decreasing conflict within their parent/child relationships and increasing coping and parent strategies. Tiffani fosters the development of strong collaborative relationships with families to encourage their active participation in developing goals that address their concerns and are sensitive to their values.